{"id":2296,"date":"2017-11-29T11:26:35","date_gmt":"2017-11-29T16:26:35","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/praymoreretreat.org\/?page_id=2296"},"modified":"2022-02-24T08:21:12","modified_gmt":"2022-02-24T13:21:12","slug":"stages-giving-receiving-forgiveness-advent-2017","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/praymoreretreat.org\/stages-giving-receiving-forgiveness-advent-2017\/","title":{"rendered":"The Stages of Giving &#038; Receiving Forgiveness &#8211; Advent 2017"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<div align=\"center\" class=\"youtube-responsive-container\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/4LMOhgcRdCg?rel=0&amp;modestbranding=1\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture\" allowfullscreen=\"\" width=\"1000\" height=\"564\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"has-text-align-center wp-block-heading\">Summary<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator\"\/>\n\n\n\n\n\n<p>Johnnette talks about some steps we can take to go about forgiveness. She shares her \u201cForgiveness Therapy\u201d and some concepts and steps that are useful for our forgiveness journey. She reminds us that we can seek guidance from the scripture of Matthew 6:14 and that with choosing to forgive, we are choosing to love God.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Thank you for watching and participating in this retreat!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Not Registered, yet? Don\u2019t miss the rest of the talks! Register for the Pray More Retreat!&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-buttons is-horizontal is-content-justification-center is-layout-flex wp-container-core-buttons-layout-1 wp-block-buttons-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-button\"><a class=\"wp-block-button__link\" href=\"https:\/\/praymoreretreat.org\/2017-advent-retreat\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><strong>Click Here to Register!<\/strong><\/a><\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"has-text-align-center wp-block-heading\">Downloads<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Audio MP3<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/praymoreretreat.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/11\/audio\/12%20-%20Johnnette%20Benkovic%20-%20The%20Stages%20of%20Giving%20%26%20Receiving%20Forgiveness.mp3\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener nofollow\">Click&nbsp;here&nbsp;to download audio file.<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Printable Study Guide PDF<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/praymoreretreat.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/11\/Benkovic-The-Stages-of-Forgiveness.pdf\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener nofollow\">Click here to download the printable study guide.<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Printable Transcript PDF<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/praymoreretreat.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/11\/Johnnette-Stages-of-Forgiveness-Transcript.pdf\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener nofollow\">Click here to download the transcript of the video presentation.<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"has-text-align-center wp-block-heading\">Reflective Study Guide Questions<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator\"\/>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote\"><p>\u201cFor if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.\u201d <\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<ul><li>Johnnette says, \u201cUnless we forgive, or even to the measure that we forgive, God is going to forgive us. If we want full forgiveness from God, it is imperative that we must forgive.\u201d How have you not shown forgiveness? Is there something still left in your heart, body and mind that you need to process?<br><br><\/li><li>We cannot forgive without God\u2019s grace. If you have not been able to forgive something or someone in the past, what are the ways that you can devote yourself to seeking God\u2019s graces in the next few weeks so that you will have what you need to forgive?<br><br><\/li><li>Johnnette shares that we need to allow ourselves to recognize the emotions and our hurting before we\u2019re able to forgive. Have you allowed yourself to do that? Johnnette shares a few ideas in her talk about how to do this\u2026<br><br><\/li><li>The next step is to exercise understanding. This isn\u2019t having sympathy, but it\u2019s having empathy to ask, \u201cWhat could have caused this to take place? If I were to be in that person\u2019s shoes, how would I interpret all of this? What could have gone so seriously wrong that it could have yielded such actions towards another?\u201d These are hard questions to ask. How have you showed another person empathy when they have hurt you in the past? How have you needed someone to be compassionate towards you when you needed to be forgiven?<br><br><\/li><li>As we begin a new year soon, is there someone from whom you need to seek forgiveness? Consider intentionally seeking forgiveness.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"has-text-align-center wp-block-heading\">Text: The Stages of Giving &amp; Receiving Forgiveness <\/h2>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p>Hello everyone, and welcome to this third week of Advent. Can you believe that we have gotten to this point already? My goodness sakes, Christmas Day is going to be here before we know it. Now, I want you to notice I\u2019m wearing something today that is a little bit rose-colored, and that is because as we come into this third week of Advent, we\u2019re looking forward to the fact that our Lord is coming. It is that moment when we experience great joy in our hopes, knowing that our longing will soon be fulfilled in the coming of the Christ child. The last time that we were together, we began to explore this gray area of forgiveness. And I mentioned to you that there is a penitential character that accompanies the Advent season.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We don\u2019t often think of it that way, but indeed it has always been part of this season, though, as I shared with you the last time, lessened or less strict than we experience in the Lenten season. And it seems to me that of primary importance, as we make a movement forward in our life in Christ Jesus, is to shore up those areas of our soul that have been affected by the sins of others against us, and I must say by our own personal sin as well. It is in forgiveness and in extending mercy to others who have hurt us so desperately that we begin to make this forward movement. I must also say that it\u2019s also in taking that mercy that we receive from the sacrament of reconciliation and applying it to ourselves that we also feel this release from the bondage of actions that we have committed that have had such ill effects against us.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">The Stages of Forgiveness<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>It occurred to me, as I gave some retrospective view towards the last time that we were together, that it might be helpful to talk about the stages of forgiveness. As we think about that, that could possibly lead us also to ask for forgiveness as well. Because my guess is, like me, I have indeed caused injury to others, either purposefully or inadvertently. Through the words that I\u2019ve said, for the deeds that I have omitted, and thoughts perhaps that have not been in the best interest of another. If you can say \u201cYes, me too Johnnette,\u201d then I think that this particular time that we\u2019re going to spend together today looking at this third week of Advent is going to be absolutely beneficial and helpful to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So I have some notes here that I want to refer to, because I want to be as precise as I possibly can as we make our way through this particular discussion on forgiveness. Forgiveness can be a very, very difficult thing to do. And right here, I want to begin with a beautiful scripture passage that we find in Matthew 6 verse 14. And this is coming from our Lord Himself. He says&nbsp;<strong><em>\u201cFor if you forgive men their trespasses, your Heavenly Father also will forgive you.<\/em><\/strong> <strong><em>But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Now, those are amazing words, aren\u2019t they? It really sets up for us a great spiritual reality: that unless we forgive, or may I say even to the measure that we forgive, God is going to forgive us. If we want full forgiveness from God for all of the things that we have done that have offended Him, for all of the things that we have done that have affected our fellow neighbor, for all of the things that we have done that have affected ourselves, it is imperative, it is incumbent upon it, it is a nonnegotiable that we in fact must forgive. Because, as it says in another place in scripture, the measure that we measure with will be measured back to ourselves. Yikes, that\u2019s a news flash, and that should make us sit up very tall in our seats and take note.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">How Can We Forgive?<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>So the question then is how can we forgive? What process do we engage to get to that point? And as I shared with you the last time, there are so many misconceptions that we have about forgiveness, and we begin to think that forgiveness is things that it is not. We begin to think that, you know, if we forgive somebody, it means that the evil that was perpetrated against us no longer matters. It means that we forgive and forget. Not a possibility for the human person may I say, unless we repress those emotions and those memories, which can lead us to greater travail. We might begin to think that there is no retribution that is necessary, or we might begin to believe that we\u2019ve got to invite this person fully into our lives. But nothing could be further from the truth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As we shared last time, forgiveness is a free will action. We choose to forgive, prompted by grace \u2013 we can\u2019t do it alone; it takes the divine light in us to be able to forgive. That sets us free from the consequence of sin, and that\u2019s the end result. When we make a decision to forgive, when we walk in the forgiveness that we have received and begin to extend that to another, then we feel the release of the hold that has been upon us through the action of the other against us. So how then do we begin to move forward in this process of forgiveness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Forgiveness Therapy<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Well, in my notes, I have outlined for you a great, beautiful series of steps that were given to us in a beautiful new therapy that\u2019s called \u201cForgiveness therapy.\u201d The first thing we do is we express the emotion or hurt. It does us absolutely no good to pretend that we weren\u2019t affected. That\u2019s quite silly, isn\u2019t it? Especially when we see the ravages of that sin against us all around us. When we begin to recognize and realize we\u2019ve been acting out of that sin, just as we talked about the last time, why would we then deny it? There is some kind of an interior release that occurs in us when we acknowledge the emotion or the hurt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And how do we do that? Well, there are several ways that we can engage in this process, some of which I think kind of depend upon your temperament, what you\u2019re most comfortable doing. If you\u2019re kind of an introverted person who keeps his counsel to himself or herself, well, write it out. Sit down with your journal and write it out. If you don\u2019t have a journal, get a journal. If you don\u2019t want to get a journal, which I highly recommend you should want to get a journal just to keep track of your own salvation story, you can sit there with pad and pencil. But write it out, put it down. \u201cThis is what I feel. This is the hurt that I perceive. This is how it has affected me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Or, if you are a more verbal person who enjoys an exchange of ideas, if you\u2019re a communicator like myself, you might want to talk it over with a friend. This should not be any kind of a friend, this should be a true friend. A friend that is absolutely concerned about your eternal wellbeing, because that is what a true friend is about. A true friend is about your eternal salvation. So talk it out with a friend who you know loves you, cares for you, only wants the best for you, and that best has to do with eternal life. You could also talk it over with a confessor, a beautiful way to begin to, in a sacred space under the seal of confession, to talk about these things that are most concerning to you that have an effect maybe, perhaps even most damaged you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I would want to say with regard to this, however, that this would not be the kind of thing that you would want to begin to explore during the normal reception of the sacrament of reconciliation. Because, you know, these things can take time, and when you\u2019re standing in the confession line, you know, we might be imposing upon an act of charity to tie the priest up so long that there\u2019s no time for others to get to confession. So I always like to recommend that in these moments, when we have serious matters to discuss, we make an appointment with a priest, right.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And I know there is something about anonymity in those moments that can help us so very, very much to feel secure, and I don\u2019t want to negate that possibility, but I do want to say this to you about that: There is also something that takes place in the dynamic of body language. You know, body language communicates too. So if we\u2019re sitting face-to-face \u2013 not my normal way preferring to receive the sacrament I just want to tell you. I kind of like the anonymity. I\u2019m not so sure I can be very anonymous because my voice is known. But the fact of the matter is there\u2019s something about that anonymity that promotes us and helps us to speak more freely from the heart, right.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But when it\u2019s coming to these kinds of matters, when we want to talk about very serious situations, I have always found it helpful to go to confession face-to-face, especially when I\u2019ve set up an appointment to do so. Why is that? Well, as I mentioned, you can read the body language of the priest. You can see in a certain way how he is receiving what you\u2019re saying. I hope and pray of course is that he\u2019s receiving what you\u2019re saying and what you\u2019re sharing from the beautiful perspective of paternal charity and spiritual fatherhood.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Additionally, however, he can also see you, right. He can see you too. And it\u2019s been, you know, I can\u2019t even tell you how many times that I have revealed some space in my heart that is needed to experience that healing presence of God, and I\u2019ve gone to confession face-to-face, and this holy priest of God, this man who is in persona Christi, will call me on it, and he\u2019ll say \u201cOh, wait, wait, wait, stop. I noticed something pass across your face. I think we need to sit and talk about this just a wee bit more deeply, right.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And so there\u2019s a benefit for the confessor to be able to read you as well, and I have always found that to make for a very heartfelt, sincere, authentic, and good confession, and I may say very good ways in which I can receive that grace of healing. It\u2019s promoted it. So I don\u2019t want you to dispose of that too quickly. And if you\u2019re going to speak with the confessor about these very deep things, I\u2019m suggesting you make an appointment with that confessor. You can also talk about it with a spiritual director, and you can also talk to the person who injured you. What a concept is that! Go to the source, right, and share with that person, you know.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Now, a caveat on this too, if this person is a toxic person, a dangerous person, please do not do that. But if it\u2019s a spouse, or it\u2019s a child, even a good friend, you know, you might want to say \u201cLook, it\u2019s time for us to have a little chitchat here. You know, I just want you to know that when you said thus and such, it really hurt me, and I want to have an opportunity for us to talk this out so that I can understand you more clearly, and you can understand me more clearly. And if there\u2019s any misunderstanding between us, or even, you know, a lack of forgiveness in one of our hearts about this event, that we can put it behind us and move forward.\u201d Wow. Now there\u2019s a conversation to have with a spouse. There\u2019s a conversation to have the opportunity to express it to a friend who has hurt you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Reframing<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>The next step that we want to take in this process is to exercise understand, all right. This is a big deal friends. When somebody has sincerely hurt is, oh my goodness, the last place we want to go is to try to understand why it is that they did to us. But as I say in my notes here, this is perhaps the most challenging step in the process, and psychologists call it \u201creframing.\u201d They actually have a name for it, it\u2019s reframing. It\u2019s reframing. It\u2019s resetting or recalibrating the lens through which we perceive the situation that\u2019s caused us such distress.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And, essentially, what is reframing? Essentially, it is choosing to reappraise what happened by considering other factors we may have ignored initially, right. That\u2019s a pretty big deal. That is not having a sympathy to the party that\u2019s injured us, it\u2019s really having an empathy. \u201cWhat could have provoked such a serious action against me? What could have caused this to take place? If I were to be in that person\u2019s shoes, how would I interrupt all of this? What would I see perhaps about the situation that would provoke this response, and\/or what could so seriously have gone wrong in this person\u2019s life that it could have yielded such action towards another.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So, you know, here\u2019s a little example that I\u2019ll give you in addition to those. For example, it is hard to forgive someone if we perceive his actions as only malevolent and unloving. But, it may be easier to forgive that person if we see his\/her actions as a result of this person\u2019s own deprived circumstances and personal limitations. So let\u2019s just choose a big, big example here. I like big examples. Let\u2019s suppose that you have been molested by another party. You can only be molested by another party. Let\u2019s suppose that happened to you. And, you know, you can look at that situation and you can say \u201cThis person is pure evil.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But every person is created in the image and likeness of God, every person is created for the good, every person has good about him\/her, so is it really fair to say this person came from the pit of hell? Could it be that life circumstances caused such a thwarting of this own person\u2019s concept of who he\/she is, or even so offended their dignity as a son or daughter of God that they acted in a way that they had experienced themselves? I think that if we think about that, we then can begin to experience even \u2013 please understand what I\u2019m saying here \u2013 a type of compassion toward that person. Not a pass, not saying there shouldn\u2019t be retribution, not saying that in any way this exonerates a person, but it does help for us to see that it\u2019s very likely that somebody that hurts us so deeply and so severely was egregiously treated as well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So that is&#8230; this concept of entering into an exercise of understanding is predicated, predicated upon this notion of reframing. Allowing our perception to grow large, right. Allowing our perception to be less myopic, but a little larger than that. Appropriate action still needs to be taken, please hear that, but it puts us in a position that we can follow one of the beautiful mandates that Jesus gives us. It puts us in a position where we can pray for our persecutor. That\u2019s a good thing. It frees us, it frees that party as well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Cancel the Debt<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Alright, and so then the next step that we talk about here is forgive and cancel the debt. Forgive and cancel the debt. And this brings us to that beautiful moment where we make the decision to forgive. We\u2019ve reframed it, we\u2019ve prayed through this, we\u2019ve expressed the emotion, we\u2019ve expressed the hurt, and now we say \u201cOkay Lord, I\u2019ve been praying for the desire to desire to desire to forgive, and You\u2019ve moved me along that continuum, and now I\u2019ve arrived at this perfect moment in time when I can forgive.\u201d And what do we expect from that? Do we expect, you know, an immediate feeling of release? Well, we could get that. That\u2019s a great grace. And sometimes, on some level, we do experience that, but does that mean it\u2019s all over at that point? We\u2019re not created that way. That\u2019s not our makeup emotionally or psychological or spiritually, so that\u2019s not likely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So we have to realize that that doesn\u2019t mean that the pain will automatically go away. It doesn\u2019t just evaporate. It can evaporate to some extent, but it doesn\u2019t, you know, just evaporate, right. And it doesn\u2019t mean that there won\u2019t be moments of regret or sadness, that the weight of what you\u2019ve experienced in this unkind manner in which you were treated is not going to return. It will return. But maybe you\u2019ve got something more now than you had before you forgave, and maybe that mercy of God has so taken up residence within you that you\u2019re in a far better position to be able to move forward.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>What does it mean then? It does mean that in those moments, we will admit, we will admit that God\u2019s grace is operative in us. We will admit that there is a profound way about how it is that we can begin to experience this release. It will enable us to see that there is light at the end of the rainbow, and as I shared with you in our last time together, the beautiful reality is that it puts us in a position now to forgive every time one of those memories pops up, one more way in which this person affected us reveals itself to us. And we make tremendous progress as we move forward. And that, indeed, is a great gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Just a couple of passages for you to think about, you know, as we come to this moment in time. Here, this is from Ephesians 4, 26-27:&nbsp;<strong><em>Do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil.&nbsp;<\/em><\/strong>That\u2019s Ephesians 4, 26-27. I really encourage you to mark that passage in your bible, return to it frequently because guess what? Here\u2019s a news flash. We have to forgive a whole lot of times. One person over and over again perhaps, but, come on. We\u2019re all going to experience the wrath of another at one point in time, we\u2019re all going to be on the short end of the stick, we\u2019re all going to have the need for that again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I want to remind you as well to, you know, allow yourself to begin to enter into the passion of our Lord, Jesus Christ, in this situation. One of my favorite accounts of the Passion of our Lord, Jesus Christ, for healing comes from Mark\u2019s Gospel. And if you go into Mark\u2019s Gospel, and you go through that passion, you\u2019re going to see there that there are words that apply to just about every kind of pain and suffering that we can experience as a human person: emotional pain, psychological pain, spiritual pain, ridicule, mockery, abandonment. You\u2019re going to see it all there.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s been a very useful exercise for me in years passed to sit with Mark\u2019s Gospel and to circle, underline if you prefer, all of those words that have to do with the sufferings that our Lord experienced. And for me, at any given moment in time, when I am suffering from a similar kind of affliction, to realize that Jesus took that to the cross for me. So I want to recommend to you the whole of Saint Mark\u2019s Gospel in terms of the passion there, to dip into that and to see what God has to say to you in the midst of it all. I do want to share with you too that in knowing what steps are necessary to forgive, we can also then begin to affect those in the life of another when we need to ask for forgiveness. And my guess is we all need to do that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So as we come to this beautiful week, and enter into this beautiful week that is the beautiful time in which we see, you know, Jesus coming in the not too distant future, and we rejoice, right, we rejoice in that light that is always upon us, let us let that same light illuminate all of the areas of our heart where we need to forgive. May we follow these steps, may we experience that profound, profound release that comes through forgiveness, and may we seek that same forgiveness for others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"has-text-align-center wp-block-heading\">About Johnnette S. Benkovic&nbsp;<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator\"\/>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-media-text alignwide is-stacked-on-mobile\" style=\"grid-template-columns:21% auto\"><figure class=\"wp-block-media-text__media\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"310\" height=\"382\" src=\"http:\/\/praymoreretreat.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/Johnnette-Headshot.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1873 size-full\" srcset=\"https:\/\/praymoreretreat.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/Johnnette-Headshot.png 310w, https:\/\/praymoreretreat.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/Johnnette-Headshot-243x300.png 243w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 310px) 100vw, 310px\" \/><\/figure><div class=\"wp-block-media-text__content\">\n<p><strong> <a href=\"https:\/\/praymoreretreat.org\/speaker-johnnette-s-benkovic\/\">Johnnette S. Benkovic<\/a>&nbsp;is Founder and President of Living His Life Abundantly\u00ae International, Inc., a Catholic evangelization apostolate with outreaches in television, radio, print, and internet communications <\/strong>. &nbsp;She is also Founder of Women of Grace\u00ae, a Catholic apostolate for Christian women that features a number of outreaches including conferences, curricula, study groups, and more.&nbsp;After years of being a non-practicing Catholic, Johnnette experienced a deep conversion back to her Catholic faith in 1981 and discerned a call to share the Gospel message through the media. &nbsp;She has been a consistent presence in Catholic radio since 1987 and in Catholic television since 1988.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Johnnette is Executive Producer of the&nbsp;<strong><em>Women of Grace&nbsp;<\/em><\/strong>television program, which is aired on EWTN internationally, Monday through Friday. The program discusses contemporary issues from a Catholic perspective. &nbsp;Johnnette is also host of&nbsp;<strong><em>Women of Grace Live<\/em><\/strong>, a one hour call-in radio talk show that also airs Monday through Friday. She is heard nationally on AM\/FM stations and internationally via short wave and satellite radio. For additional information about Living His Life Abundantly\u00ae International, Inc. and Women of Grace\u00ae, visit the&nbsp;<a href=\"http:\/\/www.womenofgrace.com\/\">www.womenofgrace.com<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In addition, Johnnette is a popular conference speaker, retreat conductor, and seminar presenter, and has been published in major Catholic magazines. &nbsp;She is the author of several books including&nbsp;<strong>Full of Grace: &nbsp;Women and the Abundant Life<\/strong>&nbsp;(Servant),&nbsp;<strong>Grace-Filled Moments<\/strong>,&nbsp;<strong>Living Life Abundantly: Stories of People Who Have Encountered God&nbsp;<\/strong>(Servant),&nbsp;<strong>Experience Grace in Abundance: Strategies for Your Spiritual Life<\/strong>&nbsp;(Sophia),&nbsp;<strong>The New Age Counterfeit<\/strong>&nbsp;(Queenship),&nbsp;<strong>Graceful Living: Meditations to Help You Grow Closer to God Day by Day<\/strong>&nbsp;(Sophia), and &nbsp;<strong>The Rosary: Your Weapon for Spiritual Warfare<\/strong>&nbsp;(Servant).&nbsp;Johnnette was married to her husband, Anthony, for nearly 34 years and became widowed in 2007. 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